Let’s talk a little about humanity, and how the internet and social media have changed humanity when it comes to influencing other people.
Why would this be important to you? More than likely, at some point in your work and life, you will need to use techniques to persuade and influence others. Whether you are in sales and are attempting to pitch your product to someone, are simply trying to convince your kid that he doesn’t need that extra scoop of ice cream, or in leadership, much of your success can be attributed to being able to influence other people.
Plus, when we think about sales, it’s all about connecting a buyer and a seller. I’ve talked before about how inefficient these systems are and wouldn’t it be great if they were more accurate. If they were, maybe we wouldn’t be constantly peppered with billions of ads as we surf the Internet.
In 1984, Robert Cialdini wrote the textbook on persuasion and influence, called “Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion”. This book was so powerful that to this day, most of the sales and marketing tactics being used on the internet today are based on the principles outlined in this book.
The Principles Of Influence
Here are those principles, with explanatory text from Wikipedia:
- Reciprocity – People tend to return a favor, thus the pervasiveness of free samples in marketing. In his conferences, he often uses the example of Ethiopia providing thousands of dollars in humanitarian aid to Mexico just after the 1985 earthquake, despite Ethiopia suffering from a crippling famine and civil war at the time. Ethiopia had been reciprocating for the diplomatic support Mexico provided when Italy invaded Ethiopia in 1935. The good cop/bad cop strategy is also based on this principle.
- Commitment and Consistency – If people commit, orally or in writing, to an idea or goal, they are more likely to honor that commitment because of establishing that idea or goal as being congruent with their self-image. Even if the original incentive or motivation is removed after they have already agreed, they will continue to honor the agreement. Cialdini notes Chinese brainwashing of American prisoners of war to rewrite their self-image and gain automatic unenforced compliance. Another example is children being made to repeat the Pledge of Allegiance each morning.
- Social Proof – People will do things that they see other people are doing. For example, in one experiment, one or more confederates would look up into the sky; bystanders would then look up into the sky to see what they were seeing. At one point this experiment aborted, as so many people were looking up that they stopped traffic. See conformity and the Asch conformity experiments.
- Authority – People will tend to obey authority figures, even if they are asked to perform objectionable acts. Cialdini cites incidents such as the Milgram experiments in the early 1960s and the My Lai massacre.
- Liking – People are easily persuaded by other people that they like. Cialdini cites the marketing of Tupperware in what might now be called viral marketing. People were more likely to buy if they liked the person selling it to them. Some of the many biases favoring more attractive people are discussed. See physical attractiveness stereotype.
- Scarcity – Perceived scarcity will generate demand. For example, saying offers are available for a “limited time only” encourages sales.
While these were valuable up until the internet and social media became widespread, my argument is that 4 out of 6 of these principles no longer apply. The internet and social media have “revised” humanity to a new place, where most of these principles no longer apply. If they no longer apply, then we need new principles to replace them.
Cialdini’s first principle is the principle of reciprocity: if you give someone something, they feel obligated to give you something in return.
You see this evident in most content marketing: give out your email address in return for a free whitepaper or some other bonus. Once I have your email address, it will get added it to my email list, and I will continually send out information of supposed value, on a regular basis, and eventually, after enough of this peppering, the prospective customer will pick up the phone or send an email and engage.
At least that’s the principle: I give you enough value and eventually, due to the principle of reciprocity, you will return the favor. This may no longer be the case: the easy availability of most information on the internet, social media, cultural and generational factors have broken this principle.
Maybe it is a “millennial” thing – if you have the mindset that you are always given everything you want, and nothing is expected in return, would this not affect your sense of reciprocity? We were taught that when you give you get, however, this is no longer being taught.
It’s now perfectly OK to continually take and take and never give. People expect to be given value with nothing given in return. You have probably seen it yourself in your own content marketing campaigns – you may have given out huge amounts of value, and all you get in return is crickets.
Content marketers continually opine that the reason that these campaigns do not work is that you are not giving away enough value, so they suggest that you give away even more value (until maybe there is nothing left), because they believe that the principle of reciprocity still exists. But if it really doesn’t, then you are giving away all your value and getting nothing in return. If this is true, then we must rethink the concept of what we are giving away. Is it right to give up so much value for free?
Commitment and Consistency
The second principle is Commitment and Consistency. That if you say that you are going to do something, whether verbally or in print, then as a human, there is this inexorable urge for you to do so. A “my word is my bond”, kind of thing. With consistency, people tend to continue to act a certain way, once they have acted in that way in the past.
My evidence states that this is yet another principle which has been abandoned. Studies show that people are much more likely nowadays to make promises that they do not keep, especially when making the promise is a quick email or text away.
Ghosting is a popular tactic to virtually disappear to deflect any responsibilities to any commitments one may have. The distance of the internet allows people to simply leave conversations hanging, never closing out, never resolving. Commitments are increasingly easy to make but increasingly difficult to follow through on because they take effort. While in the past, it used to not be OK to simply let these things “hang”, nowadays, breaking commitments seem to be normal.
Being flaky seems to be on the rise. We probably have technology to blame for most of it.
If this is true, then we can no longer trust that anyone will follow through on any commitments that they make. This requires that the burden for follow-up rests on our side, and we must continue to follow up forever.
Unfortunately, if you couple in the failure of the principle of reciprocity is well, how can you follow up with someone, without providing so much value in return, without seeming like a pest? I don’t have an answer to this – maybe suggest in the comments section below.
While the first two principles may no longer apply, like a person blinded gets a stronger sense of hearing (or at least that’s what Marvel’s Daredevil tells me) social proof, Cialdini’s third principle, gets much, much stronger. With the advent of the hyperconnected new human I’ve dubbed Homo Nexus, only if something is important to my friends, is it also important to me. Some people have completely given up their own preferences for the preferences of others.
Amazon’s new Echo Look, a wall or stand mounted camera which watches you and sends your outfit to style experts and your friends for review and voting, can tell you what to wear. Why would you ever want to choose your own outfit when much smarter people, and/or the people who must look at you, should decide instead?
In today’s world, you and your company live and die by social proof. Social proof is the number one reason you get or lose customers. You can pump out and much free content of value as you like, or make commitments, and never get a response, but if you do something that “goes viral”, suddenly, you have made it.
This is one of the reasons I suggest that if you are a startup founder, you should forget traction and build your audience first. Massive audiences who can follow you as a personality will then be a springboard into any business that you wish to develop.
Social proof is the strongest of the remaining principles, and once you have it, you will do well. On the other side, without social proof – without thousands of Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, Pinterest, and Snapchat (and God forbid you don’t immediately join the cause of whatever next, new service you can get followers on quickly) followers, you are nothing and nobody.
This has the curious effect of companies putting out things which are completely off-brand but are designed to possibly go viral, in a desperate attempt to gain followers.
The fourth principle is authority, and the tendency to listen to authority and authority figures. From the “Resist” movement, the parents showing up at job interviews (and companies are making allowances for that), tells me that most people no longer truly believe that anyone has any real authority, other than themselves.
While having a healthy skepticism around people who may not be really who they are, questioning authority has now become mainstream. Authority lies within, and unless you prove to me that you are real, authentic, and truly an expert in your field, by giving me value for free, no amount of credentials will convince me.
Being an authority is also now a trap: you have built up a store of knowledge and credentials which have value, which in the old world would have been sought after. Now you are simply a resource to be used up, expected to be tapped, for free.
The fifth principle is likability – and that people prefer working with people that they like. Like social proof, I feel that this is yet another principle which is now enhanced.
As people have stated – “millennial” is not a generation, but a mindset. Millions of people use likability as a criterion above even authority. Jobs will be given to people based on how they get along with others (which covers not only likability but social proof) and are already seen as much more important than credentials.
Who would you rather hire – the seasoned, experienced gruff developer, who will likely use their experience to complete the work in a fraction of the time, or the likable neophyte programmer who is still learning? The experienced developer may cost 3 times more, but he will get the work done in one tenth of the time of the stumbling junior developer, but at least you can share a beer with her.
Of the six principles, I believe only social proof and likability remain.
The sixth principle is scarcity – or perceived scarcity. When we feel that something will be a “limited time offer”, then we are more likely to jump on it. But what is scarcity in a world where you can get almost any piece of information immediately, even if it’s “no longer offered”?
People understand that there is no real scarcity on the internet, and if there is an offer which will expire, then it’s likely that it will either be available again or that in the vastness of the internet, it can easily be found with a few clicks, legally or illegally.
All content which can be made electronic will be available again. People have figured out the perceived scarcity and it’s just not a draw any longer.
Content marketing, already a sketchy business to begin with (create enough content so you can draw potential customers and search engines to get people to look at your offerings, and possibly, on that rare occasion, buy), has ended up making us flood the internet with both click-bait style content and valuable content, just so you can cheaply or supposedly cheaply drive people back to your business, so that they eventually purchase from you.
Despite that sense that this is cheaper than just buying into contextual ad networks – the cost of both creating the valuable content, and the fact that giving away valuable content no longer triggers reciprocity, then where does that leave content marketing? Is it still even useful?
Our evolution into a hyperconnected Homo Nexus has distilled influence down to two interrelated factors: social proof and likability. In my opinion, none of the other factors play a part, or play a much smaller role, in influencing people.
If this is all true, then how do you sell yourself, your company, and your products?
The Future of Sales
When it comes to sales and marketing, we either need to invest in things that make us likable and drive social proof, or bypass the system altogether, or come up with a much more effective way to connect the buyer and the seller.
Our “future of sales” practice involves using “engineered serendipity”. It’s a new kind of hypertargeting which leverages artificial intelligence to connect you as a seller with the exact right buyer at the exact right moment, with a targeted, personalized message, just for them.
The purpose is two-fold: a) better connect buyers and sellers and b) rid the internet of all the improperly targeted content and advertising “clutter” which bogs down our systems.
Of course, the challenge is that Google, Facebook, and the like make a lot of money in the generation of clutter and mistargeted messages. But we don’t care about that.
For us, it’s all about making sales as efficient as possible. Right now, it’s in bad shape, and spiraling even further out of control. Let’s see if we can stop that.